My pastor once said "The proof of desire is in the pursuit".
When I decided that I was going to pursue my doctorate, it was not at the most convenient time. I was a single mom with 7 and 9 year old boys who were active in karate and almost any sport the YMCA was offering. I was active in my church and working full time at a job that was NEVER 9-5. What in the world was I thinking trying to go to school and get a doctorate in 4 years with everything else I had on my plate? And on top of that, how was I going to pay for it? I already had loans from my bachelor's and master's programs.
What was I thinking? I have a goal and a purpose and nothing is going to stop me from getting to the finish line. I desired to earn a doctoral degree so that I cold excel in my career but also to show that where you begin does not have to dictate where you end. The late nights, tears, missed football games, lack of social life and even failed relationships was my proof that my desire to earn this doctorate was strong.
When we decide that we want to lose weight (or gain muscle), grow spiritually, improve our relationships, or anything else that requires action, we must show our desire in our pursuit. Develop a game plan that is measurable and achievable. Be specific instead of using words like "more" and "better". How bad do you want it? What are you willing to sacrifice to get it? You can do it, but you have to pursue it.